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PASTOR’S COLUMN
World Marriage Day - This 2
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Sunday of February is World
Marriage Day and is part of World Marriage Week which ends
on St. Valentine’s Day on Tuesday. As part of World Marriage
Week, the website foryourmarriage.org offers reflections for
an at home “retreat” for married couples. The following ex-
cerpt speaks of marriage being Eucharistic. “To be Eucharistic
in marriage means that we are called to love our spouse as
Christ loves us... This is the weight of our words in marriage
when we promise to be true to our beloved in good times and
in bad, in health and in sickness, in times of wealth and in
times of poverty. We should be willing to die to ourselves, for
them, every day for the rest of our life! ... True joy is found in a
life that is shared and poured out with love to others. This
sacrificial love is at the heart of Eucharistic giving. The more
both spouses intentionally give to each other, the deeper their
marital love grows, and also the ability to endure difficult
struggles in life together.”
“Being Eucharistic in our married life, means that we desire to
take up our cross daily and live out Christ’s example of love
toward our spouse. It means that we intentionally strive every
day to understand the needs of our beloved and work hard at
helping them meet those needs. It also means being, inwardly
and outwardly, thankful for the gift of our spouse and for the
ways they, in return, feed us. Being Eucharistic in our actions
requires us to not only understand what our spouse needs,
but also to be willing to make sacrifices in order for them to
meet those needs.”
May all married couples be strengthened, nourished and
sustained by God's love and grace, especially in the Eucharist
each week. We pray for them as they strive to model their
marriage on Jesus’ sacrificial love.
Marriage Prayer - Lord, help us to remember when we first
met and the strong love that grew between us. Help us love in
practical ways so that nothing can divide us. May our words
be kind and our thoughts gracious. May we remain humble
enough to ask for forgiveness and wise enough to freely give.
Amen.
Lent Begins February 22 - With Lent just 11 days away, now
is a good time to begin to prepare ourselves for the holy
season. Pope Francis at the end of his 2016 Lenten Message
said: "Let us not waste this season of Lent, so favorable a
time for conversion!" Last year he said, “we will do well to
reflect on Saint Paul’s exhortation to the Galatians: “Let us not
grow tired of doing good, for in due time we shall reap our
harvest, if we do not give up. So then, while we have the
opportunity, let us do good to all” (Gal. 6:9-10). In order not to
waste Lent, consider developing a plan to make best use of
this time so that we do not become weary of trying to do good.
Pope Francis also said in his message last year: “Let us not
grow tired of praying. Jesus taught us to “pray always without
becoming weary” (Lk. 18:1). We need to pray because we
need God. Thinking that we need nothing other than ourselves
is a dangerous illusion.” The Mass schedule for Ash Wednes-
day appears below. This weekend each parishioner will
receive a personal copy of a booklet entitled the Lenten
Companion. I hope that you will find it to be a helpful aid to
assist your prayer and spiritual reflection during Lent.
The Church always places before us three tried and true ways
(prayer, fasting, and almsgiving) to help us grow in holiness.
The most difficult part of this sometimes is what should I “give
up” for Lent. Continuing the notion proposed above that a little
planning might help us make better use of this season of Lent
I offer a few thoughts about what to “give up.”
Sometimes we retreat to the same things every year without
giving much thought to what this “penance” is supposed to
accomplish in us. “Let us not grow tired of uprooting evil from
our lives. May the corporal fasting to which Lent calls us fortify
our spirit for the battle against sin.” Pope Francis in these
words connects our fasting with trying to rid us of sin. Is there
a nagging sin in your life that you would like to or know you
should do away with? Link the penance to the sin or bad habit
or addiction that you need to be freed from. The Holy Father
proposed that “one of these is addiction to the digital media,
which impoverishes human relationships.” Are you wasting too
much time on your various devices and not enough quality
time with family and friends? Could some prayer time replace
time on our devices?
Commit yourself to not wasting the time of Lent. Use these
next 11 days to put together the first draft and eventually a
final plan of how not to waste the time that we will be given
this Lent. The plan for each will be different, but what is
common is that we have our own plan and be ready to begin
using it on Ash Wednesday.
Ash Wednesday (February 22
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) Mass Schedule - Masses
on Ash Wednesday will be celebrated at 7:00 a.m., 8:45 a.m.
(School Mass - ALL are welcome), 12 Noon, 5:00 p.m. and
7:00 p.m. Ashes will be distributed at all of the Masses.
Holy Family Passionist Retreat Center - The Passionist
Retreat Center in West Hartford offers many opportunities for
retreats during the year. They have given me a $325 voucher
for any man who has never made a retreat there. Call or send
me an email and I will pass it on to you.
Annual End of the Year Donations - Included in this week’s
bulletin is a listing of all who have made a gift to the parish’s
Annual (End of the Year) Appeal. As of February 5
th
this honor
roll includes 402 parishioners who have made donations total-
ing $79,557!! The average gift is $198. If you still have the
intention of making a gift they can be made at any time.
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